Chinese Women Say No to Sex

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  1. Hey. Just wanted to say I love the way you have subheadings breaking down your story. It’s a logical progression of your thought process.

    I guess it’s a feedback mechanism compounded by culture. In Japan, young people are socialized by their elders, society, etc to be averse to sex (yet paradoxically they are surrounded by it and obsessed by it at the same time). Then when they get into relationships, the women are turned off to sex, so the men get frustrated and go to host bars. That perpetuates the cycle of turning the women off sex (who wants to be intimate when the partner is clearly cheating?).

    Not sure what the deal is in China. Maybe it’s because attraction and affection and partner choice are all separate. Maybe the men focus all their energies into what they think women want (salary, material thing) and neglect developing skills in other aspects of a relationship (sex, affection, communication).

    Good sex shouldn’t be a chore. Come to Latin America and let one of us take care of y ou. I guarantee you it’ll be unforgettable. 😉

    1. Hey, thanks for the reply. Sorry for the late reply—I thought you were someone I know 😉

      Anyway, you’re not far off with your theory there. Japanese people are fairly repressed, but I was surprised to find out that many of my students in Japan were losing their virginity at 14-15. Rather than be completely repressed from sex, I think their morals on the subject of sex is all backwards. In America it is unbelievable that a man could cheat on his wife, and the sin ranks up there on the top 10 list of ‘worst things you can ever do’ along with killing a man. In Japan, I don’t think it ranks that high and is actually more ac cepted than rejected. Most women enter into a Japanese marriage knowing that cheating is bound to happen sooner or later, and just kind of deal with it in their own way.

      And you hit the nail right on the head with China. Men put all of their focus on salary and material items, yet surprisingly, this is what women want here. I think compatibility and companionship here isn’t really all that important. In a society where financial security ranks higher than emotional support, then I think there’s bound to be some suffering in the bedroom.

      Haha, yeah, I heard about the Latin men. Maybe I’ll go down to South America and do some ‘research.’

      Thanks for the comment! 

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